The Ripple Effect of Bold Obedience in Everyday Life

There is a moment most of us know well. You are in the middle of an ordinary conversation, and something inside nudges you to say the thing. To ask the question. To share the reason for the hope you have. And almost as fast, the second thought arrives: not here, not now, not me.

A recent Christian Business Breakfast panel from The Stone Table lingered on that exact moment, and on what happens when someone pushes through it. The stories that followed make a quiet but staggering case. One bold conversation can echo for decades, and reach people you will never meet.

The Math of Presence

The conversation opened with an old idea: six degrees of separation. The theory holds that any two people on earth are connected by at most six relationships. It is usually offered as a party trick, but one panelist turned it into a discipleship principle.

If that math is even close to true, then loving the one person in front of you is not a small thing. That person is connected to someone, who is connected to someone, who may live in a place you will never travel to. As he put it, even if you are only called to love on this one individual, that individual can reach someone else overseas in an unreached country. Presence is not the consolation prize for people who do not go far. Presence is the strategy.

A Test Nobody Expected

Then came the story that has pastors calling to ask how it even works.

A friend who was not a believer started asking questions about giving and tithing. So they drove from Lafayette to Indianapolis and back, talking about it the entire way. The challenge was simple: if you want to test God, try tithing. And the man did. He tithed before he ever gave his life to Christ.

Read that again, because it inverts the usual order. Most of us assume belief comes first and obedience follows. Here, an act of trust cracked something open. Over the following months his life changed, he found a church, and he could not stop telling the story.

The Snowball

This is where it stops being a nice anecdote and starts being a case study in ripple effects.

That single testimony, a skeptic who tithed and then met Jesus, got shared from person to person to person. Eventually it reached a church in Phoenix with tens of thousands of members, where it was told to a room of many thousands more. The panelist traced the whole avalanche back to its source with something like awe: all because we went to a dinner in Indianapolis and had a car ride.

The lesson he drew was blunt. You have to be bold. Not loud, not pushy, just willing to say the true thing when the nudge comes.

Ten Years Later

If the first story shows how wide a ripple can travel, the second shows how long it can last.

Years earlier, at a crowded lunch spot, the same man sat across from a coworker named David, who had just been left three weeks before his wedding and was falling apart. He felt the familiar tap on the shoulder and the familiar hesitation: right now, in the middle of this restaurant? He said it anyway. “I feel like you’re trying to put a square peg in a round hole in your heart, and you need Jesus.” David gave his life to Christ on the spot.

A full decade later and a thousand miles away, he bumped into an old, quiet friend who was now pastoring a church of two hundred and fifty. The friend pointed at him and described a family that had recently walked in and shared their testimony. The husband had been saved in a specific restaurant, in this friend’s hometown. “And it was you.” David, ten years on, was still following Jesus, and his story had traveled into a life and a church the original speaker had nothing to do with.

Why This Matters for Your Monday

It would be easy to file these away as dramatic exceptions. They are not. They are what obedience looks like from the outside once enough time has passed. Most of the time you do not get the ten-years-later phone call. Most of the time the ripple keeps moving long after it leaves your sight.

That is the point. As the panelist said, “We don’t always get to see the tsunami, but that’s what God does.” Your job is not to engineer the wave. Your job is to be present, stay sensitive to the nudge, and be bold enough to say the true thing in the ordinary moment. The car ride. The lunch table. The coworker who is quietly falling apart.

You will probably never see the full reach of a single faithful conversation. Have it anyway.

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Full Transcript

Bryce: Have you guys heard of the theory of the six degrees of separation? It suggests that any two people on earth are connected by at most six social connections. Essentially, if I talk to you, Josh, and you talk to someone down the line, six people, then we could reach anyone. So to go off your point, being present in the roles where the Lord has us, even if we’re not going overseas, even if I’m only called to love on this one individual here, that individual can reach someone else overseas in an unreached country. There’s power in presence, and power in loving on whoever the Lord has called you to love on.

Greg: I have to share this. First of all, I think there’s something with Kevin Bacon in that six-degree thing. One day Kevin Bacon called me on the phone at Purdue, so now you’re all connected to Kevin Bacon.

But following up on presence, there’s a great friend of mine who wasn’t a believer. He asked me some questions about giving and tithing. In fact, we drove from Lafayette to Indianapolis and back, and we talked about tithing the entire time. Now remember, this person is not a believer at the moment. I challenged him: if you want to test God, try tithing. So this man tithed before giving his life to Christ, which has pastors calling me all over the place trying to figure out how that works.

Over a period of time, his life was impacted in a big way. Six months later we sat down together, and he was excited to tell me his testimony and how he got involved with a church, one from Illinois that’s now coming to Indiana to plant. But let me tell you the rest of the story. That testimony, a non-believer tithing and then coming to Christ, snowballed from person to person to person. Eventually a church in Phoenix with over seventy thousand members got hold of that story, and that testimony was shared with seventy thousand people. All because we went to a dinner in Indianapolis and had a car ride. You have to be bold.

In response to that, there’s a fellow named David. David and I were at a crowded restaurant at lunch. He was a coworker who had just been stood up three weeks before his wedding, and he fell apart. We were sitting there talking, and I felt that tap on the shoulder. I thought, “Right now, in the middle of this restaurant?” And I told David, “I feel like you’re trying to put a square peg in a round hole in your heart, and you need Jesus.” In that moment, he gave his life to Christ.

And it’s just like God to do this. Ten years later I was in Massachusetts, and I ran across another old friend, having lunch with him and his family. I asked how he was doing, and he said it was going really well. He was one of those quiet guys when I knew him, and now he was leading a church of two hundred and fifty people. I thought, what is going on with this guy? He said he’d been running a small group at his house for about six months. Then he looked at me, pointed, and said, “I had a guy come in with his wife and his two children, and they gave their testimony. He got saved in this particular restaurant in my hometown. And it was you.”

David, ten years later, over a thousand miles away, a man I hadn’t seen in a decade, was still serving Christ. Every once in a while, God gives you that little glimpse of what happens when you actually obey and listen to the Holy Spirit. You get the confirmation that there is a ripple effect that somehow feels like a tsunami of assurance at the end. We don’t always get to see the tsunami, but that’s what God does.